March 13th would have been my mom's 92nd birthday. This photo is from her 90th birthday when we threw a large birthday party for her.I decorated the basement of her church and she invited everyone she knew. She was so excited and she looked forward to it for months. In fact she even had the party in May instead of March because she wanted certain people to be there.
She had a lot of people show up, and those that didn't show up, she got cards from..I mean she got LOTS and LOTS of cards!
My youngest daughter did a video of her life..it was wonderful...and she loved it...and she watched it over and over again...and so did all her friends..
I told her that I didn't want her to never know all the people who loved her..I didn't want her funeral to be the place that everyone said nice things...and I didn't want the funeral to be where the video is without her ever knowing...
so it was all said...there were letters...and loads of love and at the end of the day she was grateful at her wonderful life.. and her wonderful friends...
months after that..she said she was ready...ready to see my dad...ready to be with the Lord...i told her..well..God obviously wasn't ready yet..and she had to hang in there and find the rest of the things that she was supposed to do....and she did...for another year and 9 months...since her 90th celebration...she continued to love...to write notes...to be a friend to everyone..and we got to have wonderful priceless moments together....
After the party...we froze the cake top from her party...over and over again..she wanted me to use it..to celebrate something with it...we forgot to use it for her birthday..(her 91st) and we forgot to use it for her anniversary...and she kept reminding me...i thought it was probably pretty icky by almost 2 years later in moms freezer...so i kind of forgot about it...(mom couldn't taste anyway at the end..so she thought it would be just fine!)
When she died and we did her funeral...we had the video there..instead of looking at her body..everyone looked at the video and sat in the chairs and celebrated her life...
we all just celebrated mom...any notes i got...and i got quite a few..there were no surprises..all the people who talked...all the people who wrote..were the same that said all the loving things to her....her funeral was just an aftermath...she got to enjoy her own eulogy....
on her birthday..a good friend of my mother's daughter took me to lunch...we talked and celebrated our mothers...we missed them..and we reminisced....and we looked at pictures...and there were some touching moments...
my middle daughter drove in with her hubby and was with me for the birthday...
we got the cake out of the freezer.. turned off the lights and lit a candle...and prayed..thanking God for our wonderful Noni....(my hubby even sang)
then we ate the cake...
it wasn't bad..she was right....
but she still wouldn't have been able to taste it..and she was a diabetic..
so i guess i don't feel too bad that she didnt have it.......but i can tell she would have said..
"well it's about time you ate it!"
catherine
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